Dating is a game… it’s all in how you play.
There are many DO’s and DON’Ts when it comes to dating.
The first thing to remember about dating is it’s a discovery phase… It is about getting to know someone new, their values, goals, interests and ideas.
A date is not an hour study cram, you don’t need to learn every ounce of information about the man to see if he will make the perfect long term suitor.
Don’t interrogate… relax…talk about the news of the day, world issues and ask them what their interests are… you don’t need to pick their brain about everything from their childhood to their chosen funeral home.
It is important to date with a level head, no expectations. That way you won’t be disappointed.
Be open to the fact they may not have all the same interests as you…and it doesn’t matter.
Don’t place so much pressure on the first date. If it doesn’t live up to expectations give them another chance to make their mark… It is important to give this fresh blood a couple of chances…. besides you can’t possibly know someone from a short dinner or drink.
First impressions count so make sure you’re well groomed, showered and fresh… no one want’s a smelly date.
Table manners are important (thanks mum)…if he hasn’t got any alarm bells should be ringing.
It’s ok to drink a wine or two, even a cocktail might ease the the jitters but ladies don’t over drink… a) a drunk date is not attractive b) you should stay safe c) alcohol encourages actions and activities you otherwise wouldn’t consider.
Starting from scratch with someone knew can be hard. But it is important to remember that you will never know if you don’t give it a go.